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Friday
Dec232011

Solstice A Time of Transition

As some of you know, my life has taken me on a ride that I was not expecting. In November, I received a message that I was not doing what I was supposed to on my life path and that my transition would be gentle push. Well, my higher self gave me a whole month to wonder what it was about.

I can’t say that I know what it is about yet but I was informed by my landlord the first week of December that I had to move out. He is planning some renovations to the home I am living in and his family was coming for a visit and so he needed the space for them. Within a week, I heard a voice to call my landlords from my first home on the island, who are now good friends. They had a beautiful home that was available to rent, and is within walking distance to Kealakekua Bay.

I have had a storage locker full of furniture and personal items in Dallas, Texas since April of 2005 when I moved back to the island. I have been calling my things to me for the last year but not knowing where to put them because I was living in a furnished home. It is now on it’s way. I had to have an empty home to place my things in.

I also applied for a job that would have given me a steady income. I was swimming and meditating when I heard “what do you choose with your work?” I said that I wanted to have the freedom of the flow of a day, the ability to swim when I wished and to make a steady income doing the things I love. And I heard, “then choose what you wish”. I had a great interview but didn’t get the job.

Instead I have some wonderful guests coming to stay at my new home. I have also been told to do the seminars that I love. My first seminar will be on Manifesting Your Dreams in 2012 and will take place in April. The other seminars will be in the fall, taking place in September, October, November, and December, helping to bring in the new energies.

To punctuate the new energies coming in for me, I won the door prize two weeks in a row at our weekly Rotary meeting. I have just had this wonderful flow in my life since the opening of the doorway to my life path.

I read a newsletter from Mellen Thomas Benedict and he spoke of the opening of the doorway to his life purpose this year. He was told in 1982 that he would expect this transition in 25-30 years but he needed to work on some things first. To read more on his wonderful journey go to http://www.mellen-thomas.com

2012 is not about ascending up into a new dimension, or the destruction of the world, but a doorway opening to a new flow that is easier if we are willing to get out of our own way. We have to let give up the old paradigm of how things work and be willing to choose in such a more inventive way. Why limit ourselves to the surprise of door 1, 2, or 3, when we can have an informed decision of what we want and we can have it all.

Solstice has just passed and the time of light is lengthening not only physically but also metaphorically. Allow the abundance in our life to flow. Do it with an open heart, stepping out of fear. For many of us, it is not just about what we do in life but bringing in the open-heart space for all. Let go of the judgment of others and see them opening to their full potential. Manifest your dreams and see others manifesting theirs.

May the light grow in your heart in the same way that the sun’s light is growing each day. Blessings to you and yours’ this holiday season. May all your dreams come true in 2012.

Monday
Nov142011

Cancer Therapies

In early 2000, my niece was diagnosed with breast cancer. She was 28 years old at the time of her diagnosis. She has always been a special person in my life as I always felt my sister shared her daughter with me. (I was gifted with 2 sons and always wanted a girl.) My healing modalities were a gift I could share with her.

She lived in Eugene, Oregon and I lived in Portland about 110 miles away. While she was undergoing surgery and radiation treatment for the cancer, I would drive down every couple of weeks to do Lymphatic Drainage or Cranio-Sacral Therapy on her to assist in her healing process. Doing the lymphatic work while she underwent the radiation was very important.

First, I had to redirect the lymph flow from the surgery scar from her lumpectomy. When they cut through the lymphatic tissue, it is like blocking a river and when the lymph nodes are removed the river needs to be rerouted. The body is very smart and all it often needs is a little nudge to get it working again. When the radiation began, it was so important to take the swelling of the burned tissue out to assist it again. She has been cancer free for 10 years and now has a beautiful 2-year-old son.

The physical work is so important to the body’s health and well being. What about the emotional body? Let’s not forget about all of the family and friends that share the fears and energy of the person who is diagnosed with cancer. Having cancer is a team effort.

Offering healing to the whole person and family is so important in the journey. Emotional support, nutrition, stress relief, and just plain nurturing need to be part of the healing. The process can rarely be done alone. I heard a story about a woman who had cancer. She saw an intuitive healer who told her that she needed to accept help. She had always been very selfless. She began accepting others help in her journey of cancer and the tumor shrank to the size of a pea. When she began to feel better she stopped accepting help and within a month, the tumor had re-grown and she died.

What are the life lessons we need to learn? It may be that we need to accept help and that we deserve to be loved. It may be that we must let go of the victim mentality. You ask about the person who is so full of love and they get cancer. Perhaps it is a gift from their higher self to their family or friends to help them heal something in their lifetime. Whatever the lesson, it needs to be looked at with love rather than fear and anger. Remember the phrase, ‘when someone gives you a lemon, make lemonade’.

Life is a path of learning and we choose which fork we walk. Each fork walked is a decision that will teach us a new lesson in life. We can choose to walk the path with love in our hearts or blame the world for the lemons it gives us. Forgive me if I stumble on my path. May I have the strength to get up, dust off, and continue on my journey.

Wednesday
Oct052011

Boundaries

I recently had an experience of needing to set some boundaries where I live. It was very difficult to set them, because I had decided that I was willing to move rather than stay with unclear boundaries. By setting the boundaries, I finally had an ease where I live, and a comfort in a space where I call home.

Sometimes we need to honor ourselves by setting very clear boundaries with others. Since going through this experience, I have had many people call me with their concerns about boundaries within their own lives. I had a friend who gave so much of himself, that he was exhausted. I had another friend who ha been living with someone for over a year and still has not unpacked many of her items because she has not felt as if she has had permission to unpack, and is wondering whether to stay in the relationship.

It is sometimes difficult to put boundaries between ourselves and others or situations. If we do not set those boundaries, then the energy between yourself and others is unclear. It doesn’t give you or the other person permission to be themselves. When the energy is unclear, there is often a resentment, judgment, or fatigue due to energy leaks.

I have had many people tell me that they love themselves and the way that they do it is to put everyone else first. We can’t give to someone else fully and completely if we are too tired and have not taken care of ourselves. If we are holding resentment or judgment in our heart it is not due to the other person but it is what we hold deep inside from past hurts or decisions that needs to be healed. If we have proper boundaries and the other person is hurting us, we walk away. When we don’t care enough about ourselves, we often take it personally, and either feel we are the victim or feel guilty about standing up for our rights.

Many people who took on the caretaking role as children to get along in the family have a very hard time taking care of themselves. They feel that giving in to others, and making sure that their wishes are cared for before self that this is the highest form of love. But what it really is, is that the boundary of the self love is not strong enough to know that the other person has their own learning path too. If you do it all for them, then you are doing them a disservice by not allowing them to learn their path. If you don’t respect yourself, then how can the other person respect you?

It is important when setting boundaries that we understand how the other person thinks. As a woman, I often think with my emotions, how I feel about a situation. Many men think more concretely and don’t understand the emotional concept of the boundary. Communication is so important in any relationship, whether it is with our family, our significant other, friends, or even business relationships. It is dangerous to assume that the other person understands you when they don’t respond in the way that we expect them to.

In Hawaii there is a concept called ho’o ponopono. It means to make things right. It is a form of mediation where things are talked about until they are cleared up often with the help of someone skilled in ho’o ponopono. Families practiced the concept before they could eat together. Everything that needed to be talked about was settled before they could break bread. They knew that the stress of anger or upset did not allow us to digest our food well.

Even in skilled communication classes you learn to repeat back what the other person is saying and get clarification. Don’t expect the other person to understand what you’re saying when they have walked a different road than you have. The book “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus” is a good example of the difference in communication skills between men and women.

Often we do not set boundaries because we have already projected an outcome of how the other person will react if we own our own space. That is why it is so important to stay in present time. Our mind will try to play tricks on us to keep us in an uncomfortable comfort of an old way of doing things. It will try to keep us safe.

I would rather step out of my comfort zone from now on to be able to speak my truth by loving myself, honoring my space, and by doing so honoring the other person.